Momka — A Word That Hurts

Авторская колонка Тимура Левитина
Language. Identity. Choice. Meaning.

Sometimes we don’t avoid a word — we avoid what it makes us feel.
And the further we run, the louder it echoes in silence.

Some words live inside us

There are words that don’t just describe. They stay with us.
One of them is momka — a word that carries more weight than it seems.

Normally, the word “mom” sounds warm.
It means someone who gave birth, who raised you, who stayed.
Still, people sometimes replace it with momka, and that shift is never neutral.

“Momka” is not “Mommy”

This version lacks affection. It’s not gentle.
Instead, it often sounds tired, cold, even sarcastic.
In some cases, it feels like a wall built from pain or habit.

When language becomes distance

You’ll hear it in everyday talk:

- “Ugh, momka is yelling again…”
- “Where’s the food, momka?”
- “Momka left. I raised myself.”
- “Momka went to the garden.”
- “Momka drank again.”

These phrases don’t always mean rejection.
In fact, the word momka can come from emotional distance, not disrespect.
It may be the only way someone can refer to their mother — without reopening a wound.

What we don’t say still speaks

Not everyone had a present mother.
Some lost her. Some never got to say the right words.
For them, momka is safer. It protects them from emotions they’re not ready to face.

Even though the mouth says “momka,” the body remembers “mom.”
The voice might hold back, but the silence reveals everything.
We avoid tenderness, but the pain finds a way.

One cry, no answer

There’s a song by Ukrainian artist Skryabin, titled “Mam.”
No full sentences. No explanations.
Just: “Mam!” — and then silence.

Lines like “Why again the same way?” or “Why are you silent again?”
sound like echoes from inside — not questions, but confessions.
It’s not a dialogue.
It’s a wound trying to speak.

One word. One wound.

This is why mom is not just a word.
It’s everything — presence, memory, loss, and longing.

So today — just this.
One word.
One wound.
And the space between what we say and what we feel.

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Also read:

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🔹 Read this article in Russian
🔹 Read this article in Ukrainian

Author: Тимур Левитин
Founder, Director, and Senior Language Instructor at Levitin Language School
© Тимур Левитин

Category: Author’s Column | Real Language, Real Words
Series: Авторская колонка Тимура Левитина
Language. Identity. Choice. Meaning.